Navigating the Holidays: Tips for Domestic Violence Survivors
The holidays can be a bittersweet time for many, but for survivors of domestic violence, it can be particularly challenging. It's essential to prioritize your well-being during this season. Here are some tips to help you navigate the holidays with resilience and strength.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Recognize Your Emotions: It's important to accept wherever you are emotionally. Whether you’re feeling lonely, sad, or anxious, don’t shy away from your feelings. Writing in a journal can be a healing way to process these emotions.
Reach Out: You don’t have to face the holidays alone. Connecting with trusted friends or support groups, either in person or online, can help relieve feelings of isolation. Sharing your feelings with those who understand can make you feel valued and heard.
Safety First
Create a Safety Plan: If you are currently experiencing or have previously experienced violence, ensure you have a safety plan in place. This includes having a safe place to go, keeping important documents readily accessible, and having a code word with trusted friends or family for urgent situations. If you’re unsure where to start, Journey Center’s 24-Hour Helpline can help you create a safety plan for you and your family.
Avoid Triggers: Identify situations that may remind you of the past or may make you feel unsafe. It’s perfectly okay to decline invitations or choose not to participate in certain gatherings this holiday season.
Staying Uplifted
Set Realistic Goals: Instead of striving for perfection during the holidays, set realistic and achievable goals. For instance, if cooking a big meal feels overwhelming, opt for a smaller gathering or order from a local restaurant.
Celebrate Small Wins: Take time to recognize and celebrate small achievements, whether it’s reaching out to a friend or completing a self-care activity. Acknowledging progress, no matter how “small” can boost your self-esteem.
Create New Traditions: Consider starting new holiday traditions that align with your healing journey. This could be anything from a self-care day to crafting a personal vision board for the upcoming year or watching your favorite movie that you can come back to every year.
Building a Supportive Environment
Decorate Your Space: If you feel comfortable, decorate your living space in a way that brings you happiness. Use colors and objects that uplift your mood, creating an environment of warmth and peace.
Gratitude Practice: Consider starting a gratitude journal. Writing down three things you are grateful for each day, even if they're small, can help shift your focus from negative feelings to positive aspects of your life.
Remember, it’s okay to ask for help and to take things one step at a time. You are not alone.
If you or someone you know has been impacted by domestic violence or child abuse, we are here for you. Our 24-Hour Helpline is always available. Call or text our 24-Hour Helpline: 216.391.4357 (HELP) or live chat.